These are calls I’ve gotten recently from clients, concerned about performances of some of their key women.
“She is fine when she’s one-on-one with colleagues, but as soon as she goes into a group meeting or presentation, she clams up. We know she has good communication skills, but she refuses to use them.”
“During the presentation, she didn’t read the room well. She’s done this talk many times and practiced it over and over. Just because a few people were unhappy with the direction, it must have thrown her off because she just kept talking. Someone in the pitch ultimately asked her to sit down in the middle of her unfinished deck.”
“I had a board member look at me and say, “You say they do good work (this internal team made of women), but wow their presentations are horrible. How could that be? – they are a communications team!”
“She has a great communication style and reports that she isn’t nervous, but every time she starts a presentation or even a conversation with a group – she begins to be blush. Her neck turns completely red for at least 15 minutes. How could that be so incongruent with what she’s feeling inside?”
“She answered a question of a board member that should have taken 1 sentence to complete. Instead she took 5 minutes to get it out. She knew the information, what happened?”
Five different industries. Five different situations. Five different women, ages, backgrounds. So what’s the connection?
Each of these calls came from a concerned supervisor. They wanted me to help coach these specific executives into better communication behaviors. You know, be concise. Answer the question asked. Speak up. Be clear. Be compelling. Be engaging.
But each of these executives had communication skills. Sure, we could work on a few improvements. But there was other work that had to be done first.
I’ll call it grounding.
My colleague Suzanne Roberts is the expert at this, and I’ll extrapolate what I’ve learned from her insightful and sustainable somatic coaching.
We each have history and experience that comes with us wherever we are. And if that history and those experiences have not been reconciled – they will rear their ugliness at times of pressure, stress and uncertainty. Like a consequential presentation.
We don’t feel grounded. Or maybe more exactly – we may have consciously convinced ourselves we are grounded – but subconsciously, we really aren’t. And then our “psycho-biology” kicks in. In short, our body works without the advent of self-control from our brain. The closed body stance. The flush neck. Ignoring other’s non-verbals. Over-talking.
So when I was talking to the supervisor of the woman who wouldn’t speak up. I asked a few basic questions because I suspected what Suzanne calls “secondary trauma.” Meaning, she wasn’t personally injured or hurt, but she was around someone who was. Or saw pain and suffering that impacted her. Indeed, her parents were divorced and she had a sister that died in her teens. But more importantly, she had a previous boss who gave her difficult feedback – harsh, rude, negative feedback. Not ever positive or developmental. In those meetings she’s feeling like she has a faultine she’s standing on. So she freezes. It’s safe there (really?). There’s no risk in freezing since you do nothing (your body says). Until your supervisor says your job is on the line if you don’t step up and contribute (yipes!).
Others may flee – avoid the situation. Others defend – talking too much – questioning themselves and their knowledge. And even others may fight back. Take a punch, blame the behavior on someone else. “They didn’t prepare me well for the situation I was about to enter.”
The woman that ignored the feedback? She was trained as a beauty queen as a youth. She didn’t know how to take feedback that wasn’t smiling and clapping, so that’s what she looked for. She ignored all other signs of not doing “perfect.” She had no recovery mechanism.
So as you evaluate, coach and monitor both yourself and your colleagues’ communication inefficiencies, be sure to dig a little deeper at the subconscious triggers that are informing behavior. Because like it or not, we carry all of our experiences with us and it take work to know how to have self-control to keep them from getting in the way of a great presentation.
Articulation Inc will be addressing these issues in concert with Unifying Solutions with a new workshop offering in Fall, 2014. Email ruth (at) articulationinc.com for more information.
No CommentsAfter the first TEDxColumbus event in 2009 at the Wexner Center, I remember thinking the day after: why aren’t I doing more of “THIS?” This being helping speakers architect their story and find their voice. And deliver what I am now calling “The Talk of Your Life.” It is what lead me to create ar.tic.u.la.tion and the work I do every day.
Now, thanks to video producer Rich Bowers and his desire to follow the success of TEDxColumbus, the journey of two TEDxColumbus 2012 speakers and my passion for coaching people through this experience, we now have this awesome documentary. In a little over an hour, you’ll hear and see the pathway that Naomi Stanford and Jan Allen took on their way to the TEDxColumbus stage, and a lot of my ramblings on how I interpret the TEDx platform, preparation process and my coaching approach.
I’d like to personally thank Naomi and Jan for their participation and extra effort that went into this project. They allowed themselves to be vulnerable, transparent and authentic through each interview. It is my hope and goal that it becomes another valuable and insightful tool for future speakers to use to appreciate the successful ingredients to a wildly successful talk and experience.
Because as Jan said, “You come out of this process a different person than when you went in.”
And here are Jan and Naomi’s full TEDxColumbus talks:
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While we have been involved in hundreds of keynote addresses over the years, I thought it was time to document the pathway of one from start to finish. Each is different of course based on the speaker, event and audience. We adapt for each and in this case, we’re working with the founder of a company who has been invited to give the keynote at an annual Chamber of Commerce Meeting.
We started planning yesterday by a reviewing previous talks she’d given to some smaller groups to build upon content with which she was comfortable. It was primarily a listening exercise to understand ‘her story’ and elements we can pull, twist and bend as we fashion a talk specifically for this event.
Then came the question that usually gets a pregnant pause response: “What question are you answering that’s on the audience’s mind?” ( I don’t insist on answering the question, I just want to define what it is.)
For an event like an annual meeting, that’s difficult. Very difficult. People come to hear updates on the state of the chamber (obligatory), to see and be seen (everyone’s a player), to generally support the chamber and the community (be a good servants). Do they come to hear the keynote? Well, they may not come if there wasn’t a keynote — but the million dollar question for a speaker preparing a talk: will the audience really listen? Do we really care?
For this event, it will be a morning breakfast. There will be combative fights for coffee, the eggs will be augmented by something sugary, and everyone will begin checking their blackberries about 20 minutes after they’ve taken a seat. Yep, we’ve all been there.
Motivations of attendees will range from networking to gossiping to gripping and grinning. Some will be interested in who is sitting across from them at that imposing white-linen tableclothed round table but….shoot, no time to scream across the bacon and OJ, the program is starting. Time to be quiet. At least with our mouths and ringers (never said anything about shutting down our brains).
So as a speaker, while it seems like a sedate, boring, professional crowd, in fact, there’s a melee going on. It will be her job to break through the clutter and tell a few stories that will wrap up a high-value idea with a take-away that will taste better than the week-old Chinese in my fridge.
We began by building with a hierarchy of messages that we spent 2 hours brainstorming. We asked “so what” about a dozen times and struggled, unexpectedly, to dig for the most resonating truth (’cause of course we don’t lie!). Next, I’ll help her to organize the ideas and then build an outline (but don’t mess those steps with each other).
We will proceed on the following assumption that the questions the audience wants answered are
A) Who are you and why are you worthy to be talking to me this early morning.
B) What will you tell me that makes me want to like and believe you?
C) What can you tell me that I can take away and apply, repeat or learn from?
D) When can I leave and get back to the mess happening at work?
Now, mind you, these are different questions than what’s on the organizer’s mind- which are :
A) How can you make sure our members feel they got value for buying a table today?
B) How can you tie your message with our latest campaign message for economic development? and
C) Can you make sure you don’t run long, we have a lot of other speakers and we have to clear this room by 9am!
After we establish the content structure and outline, we’re going to experiment with a different preparation pathway: no writing it out. She’ll take the outline and talk it out into her “voice memos” app and then transcribe, re-outline and take another stab at giving the talk. That’s right. Not write the talk but give the talk.
Why not initially write it out?
After working with several keynote events last year, I realized that many folks should not write out their talks – ever. That doesn’t mean you can’t transcribe the talk you’ve practiced and see how it’s flowing and use it as a guide. But the reality is, the process of writing words on a computer and thinking through words you are going to speak are very different. If you have a speechwriter working with you, that’s obviously a relationship you’ve built over the years of someone who knows your style and preference. But if you are starting this on your own, know that there are different pathways you can take. The point is that for someone who struggles to write, why bother? I like to walk around (the brain is more active when your body is moving) and talk through it. Sitting at a glowing screen being distracted by email, facebook posts, phone calls and text messages doesn’t cut it for me.
(Flashback: We helped one speaker last year who showed up to rehearsal seemingly prepared to give her 15 minute talk the next day. She got up on stage for the big event but was a mess. Her story line was confused, she had way to many ‘ums’ and the audience got lost. When I asked her later what happened since she said she was recording and listening back to her talk, she admitted, “I never put down the paper.” Meaning, she kept reading her talk into her recordings. But the event itself (in a TED style) didn’t allow for notes or a script. Bottom line: She never got the talk off the paper and into her head.)
The keynote we are building will max out at 15 minutes. We may plan for it to end at 12 minutes and give people more time to chug coffee before they head into work (and be grateful it didn’t run long). Regardless, the process begins now, a month in advance. That’s a blessing that we aren’t starting a week out. The curse? Cracking the code of what will answer their questions, keep them awake and also cheering, long after the linens have been washed.
Check back to see how it goes.
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Late last year when we started paying close attention to good opening hooks, we started noting those TED talks that had particularly good ones. In this 3 minute video we produced below, we’ve spliced out 6 really notable ones, and what we consider a represenative sample of the different types of hooks you can deploy. From self-deprecating and provocative to extremely unexpected and wholly unrealistic (can you tell which one that is?), you might be inspired to try a different approach in your next talk.
See which one grab you best?
Great Opening Hooks from Articulation on Vimeo.
No CommentsLast year when we launched ar.tic.u.la.tion in mid-summer, we had no idea that we’d get the overwhelming response that we did. Between individual style coaching, signature story development advising and some unique teaching opportunities, we feel very lucky. But we know we need to work hard for that luck, so here are the top 11 things we’re focused on for 2011….(at least that we know of on this new year’s day!)
1. A vendor’s relationship with Nationwide, our hometown insurance conglomerate. We’ve been approved to work inside with their executives on speaking and presentations. This means if you work for Nationwide, you have a new source for presentation and public speaking coaching / training. If you work for another company and want the same opportunity, let us know!
2. A trip to TEDActive. This is the sister event to the ‘big’ TED, the annual event that showcases the best in new innovating thinking, trending and creations, in February. After two years of doing a wide variety of TEDx initiatives, I’m looking forward to being at a TED (okay, it’s not that hard seeing it’s in Palm Springs!)
3. Headed to the Experience Columbus (our visitor’s bureau) annual meeting in March? We’ll have a major role in shaping the stories and presentations for what will be a very different, well, experience, for them and their audience of 1000.
4. A teaching arrangement for some MBA workshops at the Fisher College of Business. We’ll start in January after Innovation Director Mike Bills does his personal branding seminar, I’ll follow up with translating that brand into your own story. You know, the answer you may struggle to find when you are asked during a job search process (or in that proverbial elevator), “What’s your story?”
5. Exploring new workshops and collaborations with Wendy Hardman, my alter-ego of presentation design. Watch for announcements early in the year. In the meantime, check out her site if you’ve got an annual meeting coming up and have a talent deficit on your team for understanding everything about presentation slide design.
6. Big ideas around TEDxColumbus. Nancy Kramer and I are noodling hard on this one. No news yet, but we are debating very exciting opportunities around what has become a very successful showcase of amazing local talent and their ideas worth spreading.
7. Weekly blog posts (right here!) on ar.tic.u.la.tion. We preach it, now it’s time for us to step up and live it. Our editorial calendar is already packed for the first quarter!
8. Live talk critiques. Once a month, we’ll attend a talk, speech or lecture and post our feedback on style, content, memorability, audience engagement, and more. If you want to nominate a talk to be critiqued, just email me.
9. A very personal one: Exchange of services with Amy Marzluff, a health coach. While I learn from her best integrative health techniques, she’s getting brushed up on her speaking skills. While I learn to diversify our new Gluten Free life (due to a child being diagnosed with celiac last year), she’s reaching new bounds with her workshops and seminars. I’m so excited about this partnership.
10. Monthly tip emails. At last! We didn’t quite get these off the ground this year, but already have the many tips already in line. If you want to subscribe, just enter your email here. We promise they will be brief and informative! We’ll include some of our favorite new reads and of course, TED talks.
11. Meeting YOUR needs. Please let us know if you would like a workshop, brown bag idea lunch or our signature one-on-one ar.tic.u.la.tion coaching for you or your associates. We have a variety of workshops, curricula and exercises ready to adapt to your specific situation.
And with that, Happy New Year. May it be filled with plenty of time and thought to create your own spectacular public speaking moments.
No CommentsWhile executing a public speaking and presentation training for rising executive at a national manufacturer recently, we inadvertently found a deep breaking point. While she broke down weeping we knew that it meant one thing: we found her pain.
Her boss had employed us for a day of evaluation and experimentation. She suspected that there was a problem with her ‘short presentation’ that she often gives at national conferences and to large clients. Her analysis was that it was “too practiced.”
Indeed, it was. But for an unsuspecting reason. She was bored. Deeply bored.
She had rehearsed it to the point that she didn’t have to think about it anymore. Her delivery wasn’t bad, actually. The content – no narrative transport, captivating visuals or concrete lessons – she admitted, it was painful. Awful. She felt trapped. She hated having to use slides. Didn’t know how to make it better. And while she was in a bit of a somber industry, it didn’t meant that she had to be.
Through some dialogue, we found out that she can do impressions of major performers (I don’t think I’ve seen a better “Proud Mary” by Tina Turner), teaches Zumba classes, still loves Lawrence Welk (a childhood obsession) and designs buttons, really intricate buttons. Oh, and when we asked if she’d ever written a narrative story, she said, like a screenplay? Yep, done that too. SO… How could she be BORED?
First, she said that everyone at the conferences uses power point. She felt compelled to do the same.
Second, she was constantly worried that the c-suite executives would be critical of her presentations. Even though, in reality, she was the only one with this intellectual property that she was presenting. (Remember you usually know 90% more than your audience).
Lastly, she had recurring nightmares about involving the audience in any way – for fear they would take over.
So… she got her slave-to-the-slide routine down to a science where no one could interject or add feedback to help make the presentation seem real and relevant. At one point she asked us a rhetorical question only to say “Oh, I never get any answers,” and moved on like a passing freight train. She didn’t want any answers.
We’ll follow back up with her in a month or so to see how the new version of her talk is going and if our menu of ‘creative spark’ techniques worked. One that is narrative-based without slides, lots of relevant case study/examples and some opportunities for audience feedback. And I bet, even if she isn’t comfortable with all the content – yet – she won’t be bored anymore.
No CommentsOn Wednesday this week, Jan and I attended the ‘final exam’ in Alaina Sheer’s presentation transformation. I hadn’t written about our style and delivery session that we had a few weeks ago as I knew there was some additional work to be done before she was really ready to present. Tuesday night we had a chance to review the entire talk together and I saw the difference.
For me, it was grounded in her attention to her story. She knew it, had lived with it and felt passionate about it. Most importantly, it connected with for her audience. As a result, she was able to start to pay attention to her delivery. Before, her content was disheveled and somewhat irrelevant to her audience, so her delivery had no ground on which to stand.
When we get a good video clip to share next week, we’ll post it for you to see the before and after. In the meantime, we had a really fabulous time watching the following on Wednesday:
For her content organization, storytelling and overall message – she listened carefully to Jan’s advice. Her opening hook was interesting and strong, she kept to the rule of three for some of her factual-heavy learning modules, her examples were applicable and well versed, and most importantly, she tied it together beautifully.
For her public speaking style and delivery, we saw immense improvement. She was no longer a slave to the slide or lurking only behind her laptop. She took some vulnerable steps to be more connected with the audience and as a result, she was rewarded. They were compelled and engaged from start to finish (a far cry from the original talk where she reported a disappointing response) and had thoughtful responses and questions upon her conclusion.
Because Alaina has some background in radio, she is able to tease you with a very smooth voice. Before we engaged with her, often she was rushed, her words melded together without necessary pausing for the audience to follow and process. In this final presentation, she demonstrated an increased awareness of those traits and continues to work hard to assure they aren’t what is remembered.
Thanks to Alaina for being so brave to share this experience with us and for giving us a chance to demonstrate how proper preparation decides the fate of a talk.
No CommentsFrom fairy tales to extreme makeovers, who doesn’t love a good before-and-after story? HGTV has built an empire around ’em (with good reason) and TLC offers a veritable pantheon of makeover shows about babies, weddings and beauty.
So Ruth and I thought it would be fun and, more importantly, helpful and enlightening, to feature a before-and-after story of our own.
Our client, Alaina Sheer (aka Ms. Single Mama) is a sought-after social media and search expert, and a veteran radio broadcaster. In spite of her stellar credentials, Alaina needed our help to learn how to involve, inspire and impact her audience.
In part one of our five-part series, “A presentation story,” we’ll show you how we upped Alaina’s ar.tic.u.la.tion quotient to help transform her from knowledgeable guest speaker to powerhouse presenter.
If you watch Alaina’s “before” presentation, you’ll see an enthusiastic presenter with a lovely voice who knows (and loves) her subject matter. She wins on knowledge and being conversational but, alas, that’s not enough.
Here are 8 common presentation mistakes found in Alaina’s “before,” including four on presentation content and four on presentation style:
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STYLE
Stay in touch here as we chronicle Alaina’s transformation. From the early returns, it will be a big one.
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